Signs That You Need Better People In Your Life

Going through transition, whether social, physical or emotional, is exhausting enough. It can be emotionally draining having to jump through hoops for a healthcare system that seems to act as a gatekeeper when trying to get hormones, surgeries, etc. or navigating different institutions (work, school, etc.) in order to be seen as you really are. Depending on where you live, trying to navigate the world as a transgender person can put your safety at risk.

That’s why, for most of us, it is definitely important to have a support system of people to help you get through these potentially hard times that you are or will be having. However, the question remains: who is willing to be supportive?

Here are a list of red flags that may mean that you need to drop some people in your life (from personal experience):

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Caitlyn Jenner Has a Lot to Learn

Oh Caitlyn Jenner. If you’ve been up to date on transgender current events, you’ve probably heard of her. Or at least the name will sound familiar.

For those that don’t know who this person is, Caitlyn Jenner is a newly out and proud transwoman celebrity associated with the Kardashian family who appears on Keeping Up with the Kardashians alongside her ex-wife Kris Jenner. She is also a retired Olympic athlete who won the 1976 Olympics decathlon who recently starred in an eight-part documentary series I Am Cait. As a result of her fame, she is unexpectedly thrown into the limelight as a transgender advocate which so far has been…disappointing at best.
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I Am Enough: The Past and the Present

Note: This post is a bit more personal but seeing as this might be something that would hit home for many transgender folks like myself, I decided to open up and write about it. Trigger warnings for suicide, rape, depression and dysphoria.

Losing a job is never easy for anyone, including myself, but this reminded me of past events and I thought now was a good time to reflect and come to terms with my past in order to keep moving forward. To be clear, the issue isn’t because my source of income is gone. It is because this event added onto the broken record that played over and over in my mind as a trans person: “You’re not good enough.”. Whether it’s a potential romantic partner telling you this when a relationship is on its last legs or when a family member isn’t supportive of your transition, the message is there. That message definitely was in the back of my mind when my bosses took me to the back room to tell me that I wasn’t a good fit for the company. The message “I am not good enough.” repeatedly rang through my head and brought me back to that dark, scary place I was in two years ago when I had received a rejection letter from graduate school and a phone call hours later telling me that I was being let go from my job.
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I Am More Than My Body

Disclaimer: I have no problem with the men who were featured in the BuzzFeed article in question. Let’s not get it twisted, okay? Also, these opinions are my own, not the transgender community as a whole.

Representation in the media is very important for transgender folks like myself. Media can show the world that we are just like them human beings. Granted, each person is unique in their own way but we are still essentially human beings that deserve the same rights and privileges as any cisgender person. And that is the message transmen, who are out and proud, want to send to the world and do whatever it takes to make it known. We should strive to, however, not just use ANY outlet for exposure and settle for scraps. Continue reading “I Am More Than My Body”