Nominated for Liebster Award

Thank you (janitorqueer) for nominating me for this chain award. I was a little confused at first but basically this is a pay-it-forward kind of thing for bloggers to get to know each other and everything. If I nominated you in a comment on your blog, do the following:

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you.

2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger gives you.

3. Nominate bloggers who you think are deserving of the award but also help promote newer bloggers with less followers.

4. Tell the bloggers you nominated them, in a comment on their blog.

5. Give them 11 questions of your own or use these:

What was your first thought when you woke up this morning?
Why did you start this blog?
Boxers or briefs?
What’s your favorite Prince song?
What makes you smile?
What important values do you live by?
Who do you credit with instilling those values?
What goals do you have for the rest of 2016?
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Debunking the Popular Trans Narrative

Debunking the Popular Trans Narrative

When you search the word transgender on Google, you’ve probably have run into many success stories or videos of children or teens that have been safely transitioning thanks to to the support of family and/or friends.With new state policy changes,  online resources and  medical institutions offering trans-inclusive/trans-sensitive services increasing each year, transgender people are starting to discover themselves earlier than ever before and are able to live more fulfilling lives.

While transition is unique for each transgender person, the most common themes tend to appear in transgender stories:

  1. They have known they were transgender (or least felt something was wrong) since they were kids.
  2. They were extremely masculine/feminine presenting before coming out.
  3. Invasive details or plans about their surgeries and other changes (if any).
  4. Highlighting their birth name, as if it’s extremely important for the reader to know.
  5. Title explaining how the transgender person used to be female or male.

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How the Internet Helped Me Cope With Dysphoria

How the Internet Helped Me Cope With Dysphoria

There are many ways to help cope with dysphoria; this was how I did. For as long as I could remember, I knew something was off but with no words to describe what I was feeling. Even when my mom slapped the lesbian label on me when I was in high school, something else was eating at me and I didn’t figure out what until I finished college. Good thing I hadn’t found out sooner because I didn’t have to seek the approval of my parents for taking hormones. Armed with my life savings, I used the money to pay for doctor appointments, bloodwork, hormones and medical supplies.
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The Race for Post-Transition

There’s no denying it being transgender is tough. Reaching a point in life where my transition didn’t pollute every inch of my thoughts was my ultimate goal.

Or so I thought.

When I first started questioning and looking for guidance, I participated in a few transgender Facebook groups. The people were inherently nice and I got my questions and concerns answered but I noticed that transition was treated as some sort of race to get hormones, change your name, get surgery and just move on with life. Now that I’m farther longer in my transition (but not necessarily post-transition), the most common questions I’ve seen were either “When would it be a good time to change your legal name?” or “When did you get <insert surgery>?” While these can be done whenever, I noticed many people rushed to get it all done and went either stealth or went on to help others early on in their journey. Being close to 2 years on testosterone, most transgender people I meet would, while asking me about my transition, automatically assume that I was post-op only for me to tell them otherwise. For a while, I also originally thought that rushing to get it all over with and then go stealth was the right way to go until I realized it wasn’t.
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